Now, you'd think as someone who works in broadcasting, I would be excellent in communicating, and in fact, I am. But when it comes to dating and relationships, I wasn't always, and it is sometimes still a struggle for me.
I'm not talking about the typical "wait until 2 days after the date before calling" communication. That, is honestly, a pretty dumb rule. I'm not sure who made it or why, but really... can we all agree that it's dumb and move past it? If you like someone, call them/text them/whatever you do, just get in touch.
For some reason, when it comes time to initiate (or even just be a part) of one of "those" conversations (you know what I mean - any of the ones that you actually have to think about whether you want to talk about them, before you actually do. Hah!) ... I revert back to the girl who gets called on in class, when she doesn't have her hand up, and she doesn't have the answer. My face goes red. My ears feel hot. I just want this moment to be over.
Maybe it stems from being the youngest child in the family, and feeling like my opinion was never called upon, because I was just the baby? Who knows. Someone with a psychology degree, maybe. But either way, I know I suck at it, and I've been trying to change it.
But, the worst part is that most guys are the same way (at least, the ones I've dated in the past!). Normally, women are supposed to be the big communicators and initiators of conversations. But if I'm avoiding, and he's avoiding... eventually I'm pretty sure that will lead to an explosion. And the tiniest of issues ends up being a bigger deal than it ever should have been in the first place.
And then at the same time, most guys (and some girls) hate it when a woman (or man) brings up every single tiny issue that arises - overcommunication can be just as deadly! Especially if it's a phone call every 5 minutes. Sorry, I have work to do! No time for that!
So, how do you find the balance? Is there some way to reconcile the technological side with the more personal approach? Are you a communicator or an avoider? Got any tips for me?